Thursday, September 4, 2008

Update on Punky and My Son's Car Accident

Just a little update to catch you all up on the latest. I have been so busy with caring for all the sick kitties here. I start at 6am and never finish until the last med is given at 10pm. It's been one thing after another, or so it seems. I am sorry to say that I have had no time for blogging these past few weeks, and I really have missed that so much!!! I keep hoping that I will be able to read, but then I am so tired at the end of the day, I literally pass out when I finally hit my Lazy Boy chair!

Punky finished her radiation just last Friday. Well, today we had to take her back for a re-check to see how much the tumor had shrunk, if at all. She has lost a little more weight, and the tumor measured somewhat smaller, but we were told to bring her back again next week, that the radiation needed a little more time to do its work. At that time, we are to meet with a surgeon to discuss the risks of the surgery to remove the outer portion of the tumor. We were told that since it is radiated tissue, she would undoubtedly lose a considerable amount of blood during the surgery and would no doubt require another blood transfusion. Then there is also the question of it healing, as radiated tissue usually does not heal well. They feel NOW that the cat should be euthanized! The oncologist said we needed to consider her quality of life. We KNOW that!!! But WHY then didn't they say this before even starting the radiation???!!! Once they get their money, which, by the way, this time was just shy of $3,000, they say the cat should be put to sleep just 6 days after finishing radiation!!!!

That kind of angered me, and if any of you know me, you know I speak my mind. So I told this oncologist that THEY need to know when to draw the line, too!!! I had asked her before the radiation was ever started if it was the right thing to do. She replied, "Oh, absolutely! Punky responded so well the first time, that we need to go ahead with it again." So then, even after the 3rd radiation treatment last Wednesday, I asked her about moving forward. Again, her reply was the same since we were already halfway through the treatments, we should proceed, but that euthanasia is always an option. I know that if she had told my son the cat should be put to sleep in the very beginning, he would have done that. So needless to say, I am a little ticked off at the moment!!! She said it didn't have to be done right away, since Punky is eating okay, but in the very near future. To tell you the truth, I am really infuriated! Had I not questioned her in the beginning before the treatments were ever started, I wouldn't be so upset. But I DID question her!!! I have come to the realization that everything today has to do with money!!! The more anyone can "take" a person for, the more they try to get!!!!

So for now, I am going to continue to feed Punky as often as she wants, and watch and see if her cancer shrinks like it did last time. If it doesn't, and I feel that she is suffering, then it will be time to take her for her last ride to the vet. I have done this many times and will not allow her to suffer.

My son's other cat, Scooter, has lost the use of her left rear leg due to an aortal blood clot that cut the blood supply to that leg. She will never regain use of it. It is of no use to her now, but amputation is out of the question as she would never survive the surgery with her bad heart condition. During the weekend, I noticed that her leg felt kind of cold. So Tuesday, I called this specialists' facilty, but they wouldn't be re-opening until Wednesday after the holiday. So my own vet took her in. Not much can be done for her except add Plavix to her list of meds to try and prevent another clot from forming. I brought her home and caged up the 2 of mine who are on Buspar for overgrooming and took them to visit the vet! They have been on Buspar for a month now and I cannot see where it has helped them one bit. So they were started on dep shots, which is a steroid shot. They will have to receive them as long as they overgroom....maybe a shot once a month or maybe a shot every 2 or 3 months. We just have to play it by ear and watch them closely. They both have licked all the hair AND skin off their bellies!!! So I got them tended to the same day, too! This is how my days are going, so you can see why I haven't been to visit you all. I am trying....hopefully, after I post a birthday tribute to my dad this coming Sunday, Sept. 7th, I will have time to visit and comment. I am waaaaaaaay behind in reading them!!!! I apologize to you all....just please bear with me. I'll get there just as soon as I can!


Another thing, my son was involved in a 3-car pileup Labor Day morning at 3am in Charlotte. We had just finished the newslettters on Sunday for the apartment complexes and had the ones delivered in Columbia and all the others had been mailed out a few days before. He went to Charlotte to get those dropped during the night when traffic is lighter. A woman stopped as she was to merge onto the interstate and he rear-ended her car, and the car behind him rear-ended him, spinning his car around with the back end hitting the concrete divider, placing his car in the 3rd position instead of 2nd where he was initially! He was so fortunate that the cars didn't explode as he had just filled his gas tank. It totalled his car. So the policeman took him to the airport where he got a rental and then he had to go back to the tow yard to empty his car out. Newsletters were thrown all over, and the backseat had come loose from the impact, so the boxes of newsletters in the trunk were all over, too! He finally arrived home for Labor Day late that day. His dad and he shopped for a new car for him, and he got it on Tuesday then. It's been a rough time for all of us here. I just thank God that my son wasn't killed. He was cut up and bruised some and was complaining of his muscles hurting him. He had a hard time getting up out of a chair at the table.

And now tonight, I am invited to my ex's home for dinner again, as his cousin is here from California. He was there last week and then flew into Florida to visit his brother and is flying back here today. I need to do a post on that, also, as I did get a pic taken last week. I thought it has been 40 years since we saw his cousin, but he said he was at my father-in-law's funeral in '88, but I don't recall seeing him then. Eddie was quite the lady's man in his younger years! These 2 cousins have so much in common, it's just unbelievable!! My daughter is able to join us tonight....boy, she doesn't know what lies in store for her! Whenever any of my ex's family get together, they have such a fun time! Always lots of laughter, so I am looking forward to an enjoyable and relaxing evening!

STOSH AND EDDIE

I have rolls raising and need to finish my strawberry cheesecake yet! Anyhow, I just wanted you all to know that I haven't forgotten you!!!! I hope to visit and catch up soon....verrrry soon!!!!!

(((((( HUGS ))))))

19 comments:

Diane@Diane's Place said...

That's too bad about Punky, especially putting her through all that and all the expense then it may all be for naught.

Between the kitties and your son's wreck you have been through the wringer lately. Hope you get everyone settled and find some time for yourself soon.

Love and hugs,

Diane

Jess said...

Man...you have really had yoru hands full!

i do hope Punky's tumor shrinks... and I hope that things slow down for you.

We are definately bearinbg with you and we understand all that you have going on.

The real world is more pressing.

Lots of love to you,
Jess

Old Lady Lincoln said...

Glad you are getting at least one evening of fun and laughter.

Hope things start calming down for you and some of the stress will be taken off of you with all of the cat's problems. I'm not too smart, what is overgrooming?

Glad son is ok except for sore muscles.

Diane said...

Sorry to hear about Punky. It's been quite a road for all of you. I'm glad Tim wasn't seriously injured. God certainly had His angels surrounding him.

Diane

Midlife Mom said...

Oh my, you have had one tough week! So sorry Punky has been through so much. It's so tough as we love them so much that we hate to give them up but we don't want them to suffer any more. We lost Buddy this week so we are in a state of shock even though we knew he had ongoing problems. It's never easy.
I'm so glad your son is alright! What a horrible accident! His guardian angel was riding on his shoulder!
Take care of yourself! You have so much going that I worry about you!

Monogram Queen said...

WOW you have had alot on your plate Lady! So sorry about the sick kittis. I would have been infuriated too.
Glad your son is okay - scary! Have a good week-end!

Gramma Ann said...

Well, I hope all your furry friends soon start to recover from their maladies. It is very time consuming taking care of our pets, isn't it? I think a kitty as adopted me as it's new Mistress. It just showed up last Friday evening, walked onto my porch and ran to the dogs dish and ate all the dog food. So we went and bought it some kitty food and put it in our garage. But each day I try to spend an hour or more playing with it. They crave attention, just like us. It looks like it may be a Bombay kitten and has the same temperament. Just so playful, you can't help but love him. I have named him, Mr. Jones. Will be taking him to the Vet soon, they may know who he belongs to. If not, I guess it's going to be Me and Mr. Jones from now on.

Have a nice week, until we hear from you again.

Sammy said...

I'm so sorry about Punky! That's just terrible they weren't more honest with you!

I'm so glad your son is okay! I'm sure he was shaken up and sore, but thank God he's okay.

Hang in there, Nancy! Take care of yourself!

Talk..to..Grams said...

So sorry about the kitty cats! Gee that is terrible they were not up front with you about Punky..... Don't blame you for being upset! Hope you had a good time with the family, Love and hugs, Grams

PEA said...

Hello dear Nancy:-)

Oh gosh, don't you worry one bit about not being able to visit or comment much lately...you are doing exactly what you should be doing, taking care of those kitties!! I can well imagine your frustration at being told, after spending so much money on radiation for Punky, that he should now be euthanized!! It's become a very sad world we live in...as you say, money seems to be the only thing that matters these days.

Thank God your son wasn't hurt worse in that car accident!!! As you said, having just filled up his car with gas could have made it that much worse!!

Hope you had a great visit with your ex' cousin:-) I think it's wonderful that you still have a good relationship with your ex...I live with mine but we only share the house! lol xoxo

JOY GARNER WHITT said...

Nancy - I have never responded to your blog before but I just wanted you to know that I do read it and appreciate the fact that you take the time to read mine from time to time.
I know how hard it is to watch one of your pets struggle healthwise because they are a part of the family and literally beome our children, especially when our own children grow up and leave home. Sorry Punky is having to go through all of the medical problems.
But on the YAY side, I'm glad your son is doing well and that God protected him in his accident.
May God protect your heart right now as you are dealing with all of this.

Lib said...

Hi Nancy,
Sorry to hear about your son! Hope hes doing good.
Sorry to hear about your furry babies!
Hope things slows down for you soon!
Blessins',Lib

hippochick said...

Nancy,

I just arrived home from several delightful days in PA. I'll post about them soon.

I'm glad Tim is okay. It could have been so much worse.

Sorry about Punky. I agree that this advice should have been given before the radiation.

I have a question about Eddy. Was he married to Helen Priest at one time? She is a relative of mine somewhere down the line.

Hope you are getting some rest and relaxation for yourself.

~hippo hugs~
Pam

Mrs Mom said...

Miss Nancy, Kick That Vet In Her Arse.

Period.

Yes, I am all for quality health care for our animals, but know what? Their health care providers need to be reasonable too.

I hope oyu had a great time at dinner!!!! Strawberry cheese cake... yuummmmmmmmm!!!!

Train Wreck said...

Poor little Punky! I hope she is comfortable.
Thank goodness your son is ok. I hope you can put your feet up soon!

Mississippi Songbird said...

I'm so glad your son is okay.. Yes, You need to take it easy. You've had a lot on you lately.. Bunches of hugs....

Renie Burghardt said...

Thank the Good Lord your son wasn't hurt, or worse, Nancy.

Poor Punky. I hope the tumor shrinks as well.

I don't know how you do as much as you do. You're an angel for the kitties.

Take good care!

Hugs,

Renie

Anonymous said...

Hi Nancy,

I am so sorry for what is happening to Punky, you, and your son. My cat was also diagnosed with cancer at UVS. I found your site while doing a search to read more about it. I have been killing myself with guilt over not being able to treat her but I've already spent so much and can't afford any more. The prognosis for my kitty's cancer (oral SCC) is very poor even with chemo and if there's a silver lining, reading about the problems you have gone through makes my decision easier to handle. Thank you for writing and I hope Punky gives you many more months of love.

Nancy said...

Hi Anonymous,

I do hope you return to read this comment of mine.

No, please don't feel guilty. For what Punky has been through these past months since March, I had my doubts about the whole treatment thing. She is my son's cat, and he wanted to try again.

At first, before she was ever seen at UVS, the specialist in Columbia wanted to remove half of her uppper jaw and even half of her nose and nasal cavity, and also stated that she may never eat again and may require a feeding tube. Sometimes, it is best to just say goodbye and let them go....none of us can live forever. I have 8 little chests on my mantle with remains of some of my little buddies who I had cremated. They are all going to go in with me when I die.

I must admit Punky is a tough little gal for 17 years of age! She has never had a sick day in her life til this osteosarcoma appeared. She looks pitiful right now since they shaved her entire little face, even her whiskers, for the radiation treatments. But she is a fighter and continues to improve. She really is an amazing little kitty.

Sorry to hear about your little kitty, but I feel you are doing the right thing. My son is just prolonging the inevitable. I'm cetain that Punky will not be here at Christmastime....

God bless your little kitty and you, too, for being a responsible pet owner. So many animals don't even receive the minimal care.

Feel free to email me if you like as my email is on my profile page.

(((((( HUGS ))))))